Meet Lorri and Al Zanetti
ur story…one must stop the madness of being overweight due to overeating or a medical condition that makes one heavy. It starts out by seeking a Bariatric Doctor of your choice and talking with him/ her about your problem of being overweight. We as a Husband & Wife did just this by making an appt with Dr. Bhoyrul at the Olde Del Mar Surgical. He gave us both a game plan after we introduced our problems to him. We went through the normal waiting period of six months due to insurance purposes. While during that waiting period we saw Dr. Bhoyrul and the Dietician once a month for six months. We also saw a Psychiatrist as part of the insurance requirements. During the six months we followed a diet plan put together by the Doctor and Dietician Mary Wight in order to prepare our Bodies and Minds for our upcoming surgeries. Let me add that we were both given our surgical dates Myself in October & My Husband in November of 2015. In Closing we both feel we made the right decision and We thank not only Dr. Bhoyrul, our Dietician Mary Wight and the Wonderful Staff at Olde Del Mar Surgical for giving us a new outlook on life. However, Weight loss Surgery is not the Easy way out it is only a tool and it is up the individual or individuals to make it a Success. I would like to add my husband and I had hypertension and he had Diabetes and we were on numerous medications. I can happily report we no longer take any medications and my husband’s diabetes is gone and hypertension is no longer a problem.
My name is Melanie and I am 30 years old. I was skinny all throughout high school and college, but once I graduated from college I got my first desk job and the pounds began to pack on. Stress, unhealthy eating, and a sedentary lifestyle caused my weight to climb steadily until at age 29 I was 262 pounds, on blood pressure medicine, and felt exhausted all the time. I knew I needed to make a permanent change and set a goal to get healthy by my 30th birthday.
I never imagined that at the age of 58 I could change my life and the course of my health in such a positive and drastic manner. Since my mid teens, I have made almost every attempt known to man to control my relationship with food. My life was a constant struggle of ups and downs in my weight...until that most important day two years ago when I made the decision to have Dr. Bhoyrul perform my gastric bypass.
I had originally decided on the gastric sleeve but my wonderful Dr. Lisa Steres encouraged me to be honest with myself about my eating habits - I was a sweet eater. The four major food groups for me were cookies, cake, candy and ice cream... I practically lived on them. I decided I needed a more drastic measure for a most drastic situation.
While recovering from surgery, I realized this is the last house on the block for me. I had run out of opportunities to save my health and I could no longer continue with the try and fail syndrome. If I was to have any chance of a healthy life, I had to make this one a success.
One of the amazing benefits of the gastric bypass is the 12 to 15 month "window of opportunity" one receives and during that time period I didn't have much of an appetite. I began to make healthy food choices and eat just to fuel my body. What a novel idea! Dr. Bhoyrul encouraged me to join his Rev Up program and I began to consistently log my food and take advantage of the incredible support provided by Mary and Brian. I have never cared for exercise; however, Dr. Bhoyrul makes me want to be a better patient so I got involved in an obesity management program at Activ8 Athleticism. The coaches there have taught me and continually encourage me to manage my physical fitness.
After more than a year and a half of making healthy food choices and exercising, the lifestyle change has become a habit. At this point, I am accustomed to and even miss it if I get busy and go a couple of days without. Even though I have to make the decision on a daily basis to do the right thing for myself, those four major food groups are no longer part of my life...I now crave healthy foods. I have lost nearly 120 pounds and I know in my heart that this change is permanent..this is it. No more intense struggles with food, weight, and health issues. My metabolism is flying high and my heart rate has decreased considerably. Sometimes I look down at my muscles and I'm awe struck that the body I see is actually mine.
What I would like to say to those considering embarking on this type of journey, you can do it. Even if you've made numerous attempts in the past, you can do it now. Be willing to receive the support and be ready to work hard towards a change that can have an amazingly positive effect on the rest of your life.
Dr. Bhoyrul recently looked at me and said "I regret not having done this for you before" and I replied, "no, no, no… everything is in divine order...I wasn't ready. Everything is exactly the way it's supposed to be now."
I know that I am more optimistic. I know that I’m going to live longer and I’ll probably stay healthy Longer. The whole trip with weight loss and being overweight, even though I said I wasn’t depressed, I have to admit there were times where it was a burden and I remember when I finally decided to talk to Dr. Bhoyrul because other things have not been workin. I had a visit with him, we were sitting in the exam room and I asked him if I would be a candidate for gastric bypass, he got up and hugged me and Dr. Bhoyrul said, “I’ve been waiting for you to come talk to me”.
Dr. Bhoyrul is a compassionate guy. It’s easy to focus on Dr. Bhoyrul because he’s the face we put on the practice. It’s also everybody in the office, I can’t say enough about them and how they made my experience a positive one.
Since I work with people in my occupation, being confidant about my presentation is really important. I’m aware of the change. Something that I really enjoy about it, is that I feel better about me.
Naturally you’d think it all starts with. meal;. mean, that first bite is euphoric. You sink your teeth into something so sensationally delicious and an alarm goes off. A loud, taste bud tingling alarm that ignites. flurry of adrenaline and calm then sends it gently rushing through your veins. With every chew. song sounds, while your hunger hums. melody of appreciation and. symphony of satisfaction sweetly serenades your every sense. Okay, so maybe it doesn’t happen as dramatically for you, but for me eating was so much more than eating; it was an event, an experience. Besides, I’m an Actor and with that comes. certain type of flair, so just go with me.
There. was, 23, and an impressive 630 lbs. obviously by this point in my life. had become somewhat of. music. aficionado. I first tuned in as. child,. have no idea why food sang to me the way it did or why dining added an almost drunken dynamic but even as. kid. recognized the affects immediately. In the beginning gluttony was. Godsend,. grace that. welcomed with desperation and open arms because frankly, in my house,. needed the music to either fill in the silence or drown out the yelling. I indulged in the groove completely and danced furiously under its distraction. The benefits that accompanied every bite were both blissful and blurring. My relationship with food was. complex one; for as far back as my memory it was. companion and. learned quickly to seek it not for nourishment, but for numbness.
You see, in my family, food was the only physical form of affection that ever got passed around. To be honest, the only positive or fond memories. have in that household are centered on some kind of meal. In my life food was the judge and jury. I learned my value on any given day through the edible evidence. was presented. It was how. knew if. was good or bad, it was how. depicted my mother’s moods. Whether or not she cooked could determine how she was feeling. Spontaneous take out feast were like quarterly check. ins from Santa. Desserts were apologies, buffets were celebration or reward. Restriction or exemption in my house were like corporal punishment. Not to mention, the humiliation and incessant taunting for those who wore their lessons around their waist. As luck would have it, in. household of at the time five people that was of course. table for one. To say that. was pretty much nutritionally doomed from the start is an understatement of epic proportion. I was forced to give up my aspirations of being. perfectly chiseled, athletically built Adonis and trade them in for an aim. little more hefty.
By the time. was in high school. had learned so much more in life and had the pants size to prove it. I had been through. gambit of group and foster homes, courtrooms, juvenile detention centers, multiple counselors. therapist, mandated prescription problem solvers and the food was there through thick and thicker. I was depressed. I needed. way to deal with life without having to deal with life. So like any good performer would,. created. character. I sliced myself into two roles;. part. played for public, and part reserved for me and me only. My public persona’s task was simple; razzle. dazzle. em. Distract them from my appearance by any means necessary. I tattooed and. S. on his chest to symbolize my secret plan for survival. Suppress, Smile, Sing, Stay distant, oh. and snack lightly. Meanwhile behind the scenes. acted out my anguish by adapting the abusive methods. had been victim and become accustom to. Episodes of binging and bulimia, Self. starvation and stuffing myself to sleep. In the silence of solitude. suffered and self. hated and on the surface. simply pretended like. hadn’t. care in the world. Through homelessness and heartache. preformed and the show was amazing. So good, that. myself had. hard time remembering that my surface sanctuary was make believe and. began to spend most of my time there avoiding anything real.
Suddenly the show was over. Reality was back with. vengeance, my weight had become crippling and there was nothing. could do. They say that when you sweep problems under the rug, they eventually start to trip you up when you walk. As you can imagine,. 630 pound problem is pretty damn hard to side step. I was trapped. I traded in my silken red stage curtains for solid black ones which. used to cover my windows and block out the world. I was barely functioning, walking was almost impossible especially if. planned on breathing at the same time. I was in constant pain,. mean it literally hurt to do everything; sitting, standing, leaning, laying, it all hurt. I had horrible insomnia, awake without rest for days at. time and any sleep. managed was interrupted by the apnea. I was hopeless and honestly had no idea how. had gotten there. I spent lonely days trying to pin point the place where my life had taken this turn as If. thought figuring that out would somehow lift the curse and undo it. All of the music had turned sad. 23 years old and. woke up every day waiting to die. Days passed and my patience was the only thing that grew thin. Along my journey. had tried just about every weight loss program, consumed every shake and supplement, and followed every perky personal trainer video to no avail. I was done,. had reached the end of my rope or had at least grown too heavy for it to hold me any longer. I decided to give up.
Thinking back I’m not sure how but somewhere in the midst of my suicidal ideation. found. seminar. I learned that what. was dealing with wasn’t the moral deficiency. had been accused of all my life but. disorder. The eating, as. discovered, was merely. symptom of my problem and not the source which immediately made the madness seem manageable. Dr. Bhoyrul was the lifeline. never saw coming. I’ll probably never know why he cared so much or what it was he saw in me but when. met with him, he looked me in my eye and with the most assuring tone accompanied by. solid handshake said,. we’re gonna fix this. It was as if in his mind, the problem was already solved. Over the following couple of months. worked my ass off to get to. place where surgery was possible. This time it wasn’t the food, but. friend that guided me. Suddenly my station played tunes of inspiration. My doctor stayed in constant communication and had so many encouraging conversations. On September 22, 2011 through. tons of sweat,. couple of tears and the. Rocky’theme music,. arrived at my destination. Side by side we walked down the hospital hallway into an operating room and. future. thought. had given up on. I remember the coldness of the room and how it was balanced out by the warmth in his eyes. I wasn’t scared,. was sure and that is certainly something. wasn’t used to. I climbed on the table, laid back, he took my hand and smiled. There goes that melody again. The soothe of the symphony started to wash over me only this time. hadn’t taken. bite of anything. I just closed my eyes, counted backwards from 10 and let the music play.
Two years and 400 pounds. & and counting. later. am. whole new me. It has been. hell of. ride but now and days. can fit the seatbelts. The recovery process was literally the quickest part of the whole ordeal. I was home from the hospital in. few days and back on my feet without pain in about two weeks. I was equipped with everything that. needed to make the transition as smooth and effective as possible and Dr. Bhoyrul made sure of that. I don’t have the adjectives to describe the ways that my life has changed but we can start with the fact that. actually am living one. Dr. Bhoyrul and the team at Delmar surgical rescued me and restored my belief in possibility. I don’t think there is an expression of gratitude grand enough for the life that was saved and the chance that was given to me. Every day. get. new opportunity to appreciate the differences in my world. It’s sometimes unbelievable to me that. have come as far as. have. No more dark shades and Isolation, the show must go on and these days. stand beneath the spot light. very whole and very real person. I never thought. would ever be able to say that. don’t have to pretend to be someone I’m not anymore but the truth is every day. move closer to becoming the person. always wanted to be. I get to recreate my character and bring some of the stuff. was suppressing to the surface. As it turns out, reality isn’t so bad. I’m finally getting comfortable just being me and it is truly the best role I’ve have ever played.
Bottom line; It works. This surgery is most definitely. miracle but by no means. magic wand. I didn’t wake up from the anesthetic in. brand new body ready to frolic on the beach in. bikini. It didn’t instantly change my world or the people involved in it but what it did was let me know that change is possible and gave me the motivation. needed to chase that possibility. So often in life and certainly in weight loss we put so much work into something and it doesn’t work out. We try tirelessly to overcome an obstacle only to discover it insurmountable. What this process did for me was guarantee me. victory, it assured me that there was indeed. finish line and as long as. was willing and determined to keep walking toward it,. would reach it. So to anyone whom has walked an even slightly similar road to mine and it lead you here, go for it. There is. lot you stand to lose. trust me it feels fantastic.
A year and a half ago I was 400 pounds. I was physically inactive and in bad health; I had high blood pressure, cholesterol and triglyceride levels, was pre-diabetic, and had terrible skin and hip problems.
In May 2012, I had my second hip replacement surgery after my first one broke. Around the same time, I came down with pneumonia, was in the hospital for a month and in a coma for 12 days; I nearly almost died.
It was then that my doctor said that I needed a life-saving procedure and sent me to Dr. Sunil Bhoyrul.
Dr. Bhoyrul immediately indicated to me that I was a candidate for gastric bypass surgery. Because of my poor health and my bad experience with hospitals, I was hesitant and fearful at first. Despite my fears, I put my life in God’s hands and I put my life in Dr. Bhoyrul’s hands.
The 60 minute procedure felt like 10 minutes after being put under. I did everything Dr. Bhoyrul and his staff told me to do and the entire procedure was flawless.
The pounds started disappearing and the fat started melting away. Limping turned into walking, walking turned into running… I was swimming and doing things I thought I’d never in my life do again. It was a total transformation in all aspects in my life. I had been reborn.
I’m so grateful to Dr. Bhoyrul and all his staff for saving my life. Because of him, I am able to enjoy my children and grandchildren for much often than I had anticipated. Death had placed a time stamp on me that Dr. Bhoyrul easily removed.
Dr. Bhoyrul gave me the tools for success. I apply these tools every single day of my life, never looking back and always looking forward.
Today, I am 220 pounds. My BPS is 117 over 65, everything is normal and I am going strong. I love running, boxing and doing things that I used to do in my youth – I’m 50 years old but, I feel so young.
I’d do this procedure 1000 time over. If you’re reading this right now there is hope and his name is Dr. Bhoyrul. Don’t hesitate, even for a second, to undergo the gastric bypass surgery. Start enjoying life, you deserve it.
Thank you Dr. Bhoyrul and staff!
Your thankful friend always!
Date of Operation: April 30, 2007
I cannot begin to express how grateful I am to Dr. Bhoyrul and his staff, their support, and encouragement are beyond words. The past two years of my life have been amazing and I have totally transformed into the women I have dreamed of being. After having my third child in 1992 I had gained an excess of 70 lbs and for another 16 years I struggled with my weight I was able to lose 30lbs here and there and then as usual gain it back plus some, I did this many times over the years. When I first came to your office I weighed 239 lbs, that was the heaviest I had ever weighed. I just could not control my food portions.
Years of being overweight was such heartache for me I wasted a lot precious time with my kids and family not wanting to participate in events or activities because of the unhealthiness and embarrassment of my weight. This is time that I will never get back!! It was time for me to make a change.
Surgery for me was actually quite easy, one overnight stay in the hospital the next day on my feet and going home. I went back to work after one week. Over the next year I had about five fills in my band until Dr. Bhoyrul and I both felt comfortable that I was where I should be. It took me 18 months to lose all my weight and I now am maintaining with no problems. I now eat small healthy portions. After getting The Lap Band Dec 29th 2009 I have to date lost 94 lbs!! Not only did I reach my goal weight but I have surpassed it. I actually weigh what is on my drivers’ license!! Today I am active, I am happy and I am proud of myself. I love hanging out with my kids and playing with my granddaughters. Life is good. Thank you.
Date of Operation: April 1, 2010
ZERO“0”… that was the number the nice looking boys on the Boardwalk at Mission Beach held up when I rode my bike past them, I was 15 years old, and all too well aware of the “0-10” cards that these boys thought it was fun to hold up as girls rode past. Cruel? You bet!
“0”… that number stuck with me through my life. Zero was how I felt for more than 40 years. Obese, trying countless diets, pills, shots, protein drinks, hypnosis and starvation that never helped for long. Sure, lose some weight, never enough and then the cruel trick of gaining it back and more.
Seeing the disappointment in my parents’ eyes when I had “failed” again.
Wondering how and why my husband was attracted to me and actually feeling embarrassed for my kids that I was their Mom.
Yep, “0” and over 250 lbs.!
That was only one of a number of things I will always remember of being overweight. So many other things- chairs breaking, not being able to get up out of a beach chair on the sand, taking the pictures, so I wasn’t in the pictures, finding out that I was being let go from a job because I didn’t look the part, buying clothes only because they fit, not because they looked good, listening to friends and family and their “helpful” suggestions to lose weight, too many things flood my memories of the pain I felt, and the body I was held prisoner in.
After my 40th birthday, the health problems started- the back pain, the leg pain, the high blood pressure, the cracking heels that would not heal and the sleep apnea.
I decided in 2008 that I would go ahead and check out the sleep apnea since I was literally falling asleep at people’s houses, stoplights, movies and anywhere that I might sit still for a few minutes.
I had a sleep study done and found out that I was stopping breathing close to ninety times an hour while sleeping… I was headed for a heart attack or a stroke. My Doctor said it was a direct result from the weight and that he would suggest losing it immediately and that he would back me up on any way to do so.
I had never really considered weight loss surgery, it seemed so drastic, and I never thought I had “that much” (ha!) to lose, but here I was going to the seminar that Dr. Bhoyrul was putting on.
I immediately felt at ease with this man, and listened to the presentation, and was impressed by the Lap Band, I liked the accountability of having to visit your Doctor for fills and maintenance, and the fact that the surgery was less invasive than the gastric bypass.
I felt like less of a “failure” when I heard the statistics regarding weight loss and the regain of weight when “dieting”. When you hear that “these results are not typical” during a weight loss commercial, they are so right, with a success rate of .02% to keep off weight, they are definitely NOT typical!
Weight loss surgeries are a little different, the weight loss is typical! And with the right support system and program, it can be permanent weight loss!
After dieting and losing some weight before I went in for my office visit with Dr. Bhoyrul (I didn’t want him to think I was too fat!), I booked my surgery for May 7th, 2008.
The surgery was very quick and any pain I felt was gone within 3 weeks time. I started losing weight immediately and within one year I had lost over 90lbs.! Yes, I do eat differently, and a lot less. But as I happily told a woman who was helping me with my size medium dress, when she said “I heard you have to give up a lot!,” I said “yep, I gave up close to 100lbs.!”
I exercise daily now, lift weights, take water aerobics and have done things I would have never done overweight. I even swam with Dolphins in public, in a wetsuit!
And I even enjoy shopping! It sure is more fun buying size 6 pants instead of size 20! And not to shop in the large size shops is fantastic!
Date of Operation: October 2, 2007
Thank you for the make over…God Bless you all for the gift of life you have given to me with the tool of the lap band. I have quality of life back and every day the quality gets better with every pound that I lose.
I went in weighing close to 260 pounds. I was a severe insulyn dependant diabetic along with many other serious health issues. I knew i would not live another 10 years if i did not take the weight off. So i attended a seminar where Dr Boyrul was. I knew this surgery was for me! I did it and lost 50 % of my weight the first year! Dr Boyrul was and is the kindest man – doctor I have ever been involved with medically! He is my hero today & forever! He saved my life & i will always be grateful & thankful to him!I love you Dr Bhoyrul